tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post3506813997144492908..comments2023-06-15T11:59:39.572-04:00Comments on DYVERS: [Tripping Your Social Justice Trigger] SpankingDyvershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-61559079627460102912014-04-01T16:25:32.763-04:002014-04-01T16:25:32.763-04:00No, that's fine JDJarvis.
I'm just done ...No, that's fine JDJarvis. <br /><br />I'm just done with the hyperbole being thrown out over this subject. Spanking your child is <b>not</b> the same as abusing your child and to equate it as such is to trivialize all the people who are <b>actually</b> abused. I fully understand that The Spoonman feels strongly on this subject but the way they're going about it is not only offensive Dyvershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-38373337218768972732014-04-01T16:19:02.520-04:002014-04-01T16:19:02.520-04:00Pardon me Charles if you care to delete this I'...Pardon me Charles if you care to delete this I'll understand. I wanted to lash out just now in reaction to "The Spoonman" who imagines a caring parent would "attack" their child but realize now that would be feeding someone who feels the need to assault strangers and pass judgement on a very limited sampling and that would be pointless. It would be much better if I just JDJarvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691101939920824546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-9499885260556019362014-04-01T16:03:39.553-04:002014-04-01T16:03:39.553-04:00Okay, that enough. Okay, that enough. Dyvershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-79858060920751670422014-04-01T15:40:25.587-04:002014-04-01T15:40:25.587-04:00Sanctimonious, good word. See a lot of it in your...Sanctimonious, good word. See a lot of it in your post. So, you think there's a difference between a beating and a spanking? With your being an adult, I can see how you'd think that. Unfortunately, you're not attacking an adult, you're a full-grown person attacking a small child. To that child, it's not a spanking it's a beating. <br /><br />I appreciate you all Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120667008441889262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-79593462733294095732014-03-31T20:59:51.835-04:002014-03-31T20:59:51.835-04:00There's a huge difference between a beating an...There's a huge difference between a beating and a spanking. Adults that aren't judgmental sanctimonious jerks know that.<br /><br />As a parent of 3 kids I have this to say this to the parents of the screaming brat in a store: leave the store, no one needs it, the other parents don't need it, and the other kids don't need to see it. We are all trying to be members of a civil JDJarvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691101939920824546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-20188472754783566942014-03-31T18:40:46.323-04:002014-03-31T18:40:46.323-04:00A spanking is not a beating. A spanking consists ...A spanking is not a beating. A spanking consists of a couple of swats to the butt. These swats are not done to torture the child. The adult does not "rear back" and "give it all they got" while spanking a child. For me, the spanking was more effective than the time outs, not because it hurt (to be honest, they rarely really hurt) they were effective because I knew I had Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05036040135424510349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-44302158081009124632014-03-31T18:40:23.999-04:002014-03-31T18:40:23.999-04:00Okay, I try really, really hard to stay out of the...Okay, I try really, really hard to stay out of these discussions because they bring up stuff I'd rather not think about, but I have to throw in my two cents. Speaking as someone who was actually beaten as a child, yes being beaten does have very bad long-term effects on the child. That said, also speaking as someone who was beaten as a child, there is a major difference between being Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05036040135424510349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-72132357059245912722014-03-31T17:26:34.947-04:002014-03-31T17:26:34.947-04:00I have two, a 6-yo and a 2-yo. If the 2-yo had be...I have two, a 6-yo and a 2-yo. If the 2-yo had been the first, there wouldn't have been a 2nd. My oldest is calm, laid back, never gave us a moment's trouble. I know a lot of parents say that, but having had the opportunity to spend close time with in-laws and their kids, not to mention the comparison with the youngest, I know it's true. We never had child-safety locks, never had Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120667008441889262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-86294676052305811612014-03-31T06:43:39.896-04:002014-03-31T06:43:39.896-04:00How many kids you have? Whic cause and effectt is ...How many kids you have? Whic cause and effectt is better: being warned and caught in the act and. Being punished with a spanking or being warned and found as a crispy lump of charcoal that isn't going to communicate?<br />JDJarvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691101939920824546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-816871188716125692014-03-31T05:33:14.444-04:002014-03-31T05:33:14.444-04:00Stealing this idea, oh wait, one kid...Stealing this idea, oh wait, one kid...Tedankhamenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00181643018957592969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-58094117789238353392014-03-30T20:28:31.394-04:002014-03-30T20:28:31.394-04:00Because a child can't. They depend on their pa...Because a child can't. They depend on their parents or guardians for protection. There are better ways to communicate with your child than smacking them. Also, just because they're not talking yet, doesn't mean they don't understand you.Darcy Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02385198563203931754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-24147589369892117772014-03-30T19:33:05.037-04:002014-03-30T19:33:05.037-04:00Why would the ability to defend one's self be ...Why would the ability to defend one's self be a factor? JDJarvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691101939920824546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-38632195179641440522014-03-30T19:27:43.429-04:002014-03-30T19:27:43.429-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.JDJarvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691101939920824546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-40030672596180403822014-03-30T18:50:00.093-04:002014-03-30T18:50:00.093-04:00Is your child allowed to hit you when you are elde...Is your child allowed to hit you when you are elderly and unable to defend yourself?Darcy Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02385198563203931754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-51060752389387243492014-03-30T18:17:49.642-04:002014-03-30T18:17:49.642-04:00"When my brother and I got older and got in f..."When my brother and I got older and got in fights my mother would send us into each others room as punishment. Being stuck in your siblings oom for and hour or so while your stuff was exposed was a dire situation."<br /><br />Your parents were brilliant.Dyvershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-53043256320987123662014-03-30T10:58:58.932-04:002014-03-30T10:58:58.932-04:00I've spanked my children but very seldom. I fe...I've spanked my children but very seldom. I feel there's a huge difference between a spanking and a savage beating. For my older two standing and looking at the wall was a punishemnt far worse (I don't think it was ever over 15 or 20 minutes), they've said they would rather get a spanking as it was over quicker. Spanking is punishment not discussion, it really needs to be coupled JDJarvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691101939920824546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-61360586287856495402014-03-30T10:23:56.652-04:002014-03-30T10:23:56.652-04:00"I've never spanked my daughter, but rais..."I've never spanked my daughter, but raising a boy might be different!"<br /><br />They really are. I didn't realize how much of a difference there was between the two until my brother had girls. Boys are engines of destruction looking for their next victim, and girls have feelings. They care and boys just don't a lot of times. <br /><br />"Time out on the "naughtyDyvershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-67254345849266801762014-03-30T09:03:19.282-04:002014-03-30T09:03:19.282-04:00I've never spanked my daughter, but raising a ...I've never spanked my daughter, but raising a boy might be different! <br />Time out on the "naughty step" was always more than enough. Turns out public places like grocery stores have "naughty steps" too (lowest shelf) if you really can't pull the nuclear option ('that's it, we're going home'). BTW the nuclear option is very powerful. We left the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-77013573132057338422014-03-30T00:36:03.386-04:002014-03-30T00:36:03.386-04:00Fair enough.Fair enough.Dyvershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-87525735755695257942014-03-30T00:20:52.524-04:002014-03-30T00:20:52.524-04:00"A friend with two kids responded with some d..."A friend with two kids responded with some defensive, vehement rebuttals. We all know that good advice goes out the window when the kid is screaming in the supermarket and we lose our cool, and we are all aware of other's eyes."<br /><br />See that's the thing about any sort of parenting advice: no matter what you say you're going to end up pissing someone off. <br /><br />Dyvershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032957275132817602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-16924879428295327672014-03-29T22:07:10.943-04:002014-03-29T22:07:10.943-04:00If I have to hit my daughter to get her to do what...If I have to hit my daughter to get her to do what I want, then I have failed comprehensively as a parent. Any hitting is my failure, and I would no more hit my kid than I would hit my wife or my mother. But hey, if English private schools and military academies have taught us anything, it's that those who suffer are eager to pass that suffering on.Jeremy Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17072164588443858336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5124770754805827894.post-77871857314218676772014-03-29T21:38:17.598-04:002014-03-29T21:38:17.598-04:00My boy's 9 months and I hear you. Your blog, p...My boy's 9 months and I hear you. Your blog, post what you like.<br /><br />I just posted some parenting tips on my Facebook (http://www.quora.com/Parenting/What-are-some-unique-effective-ways-to-discipline-a-child), and to me they seem like good things to strive for. A friend with two kids responded with some defensive, vehement rebuttals. We all know that good advice goes out the window Tedankhamenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00181643018957592969noreply@blogger.com