Blaming You Is Easier Than Dealing with My Own Hang-ups
It's depressing reading about the way that people have used the case of Zoe Quinn to prove their preconceived notions about gamers and "The Hobby" (which is a monolithic entity that we can all be dumped in because we play games - regardless of the type). Because of Zoe's situation suddenly we're having to watch that bullshit hatchet job's revival which throws everyone back into the fire. Everything is being linked to each other; role-playing games, video games, card games and anything else that differs from the main, arterial flow of what's considered an acceptable pastime is steadily being brought together to form yet another enemy to focus on instead of teaching people to be decent fucking human beings.
Instead of taking responsibility for our actions as parents, and individuals, it's so much easier to say that the problem is those gamers or [insert other group you don't like here]. It's easier to say that group X is responsible for all our woes as a society and that the things we don't like are coming directly from them - because it certainly isn't coming from us. We're not killing imaginary beings with dice or blasting pixels from the safety of our couch. They're the god damned problem!
Fuck that noise right where it lives.
Being a gamer doesn't make you a bad person, but being a hateful bastard does. But how do I know if I'm being a hateful bastard, you ask? Here's a simple test. Out of the two examples below pick the one that is being played by the bad guys.
1.) A group of players are rolling dice killing orcs and making jokes. They're having a tremendous time with lots of laughter. Some of the people playing the game are former soldiers, some are currently pornstars, while others are convicted felons recently released.
2.) A group of people are putting each other into increasingly uncomfortable situations by ascribing various negative actions to an individual (sexism, bigotry, elitism, among others). People not currently the focus of the group are having a tremendous time with lots of laughter and righteous indignation. Some of the people involved are authors, some are currently academics, while others are activists constantly who look to better the world by focusing on correcting an issue that they see as significantly making the world worse.
Which one did you chose as the bad guys?